Weight loss takes commitment, dedication and motivation. However, if you are in it for the long haul, your motivation to stick to the plan may be lost after a few months. That is why it is helpful to have a compelling reason or inspiration for change so you stick with it even though its hard, uncomfortable and just plain sucks.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Why do I want to lose weight?
- What is my weight loss goal?
- What plan am I willing to follow (hint, should be something you can do for life)
- Am I willing to feel uncomfortable?
Here is my example: I want to lose weight because I want to fit into my clothes, I don’t like the way I feel, I am tired of the constant struggle with food and I am tired of the endless gaining and losing and gaining. I want to be a thin person who does not think about food. I want to keep the weight off forever.
My weight loss goal is to weight 134 lbs or within a normal BMI range. I will follow the no sugar, no flour plan, commit to writing down my food and alcohol 24 hours in advance, eat 2 meals a day and eat an exception food or joy eat once a week with sugar or flour in it. I am willing to feel uncomfortable to do it. These are great reasons to lose weight but you may need something more to keep you committed.
Compelling reasons need to be believable and available to you in the middle of an urge to eat all the cookies in the box. Here are some examples of compelling reasons I have found by listening to podcasts by Rachel Hart, Brooke Castillo and Katrina Ubell:
- I want to be a woman who is proud of herself
- I want to be captain of my own soul
- I want to be someone who trusts herself and does what she says
- I want to be someone who honors her commitments
- I want to be someone who desires more from her life than food or alcohol
- I want to be proud in the morning
You can pick your own compelling reason and remember it has to be believable to you. I used several of these to steadily keep losing weight. However, now I am in a plateau and I needed another compelling reason to lose the last 10 lbs. I thought of this one: I am willing to do whatever it takes to lose the last 10 lbs.
If you are still not ready to commit to losing weight, start off with just writing down every bite, lick or taste you put in your mouth. Increase your awareness and be the curious observer. You will be amazed at how often you are mindlessly stuffing food into your mouth. Then start asking yourself why you are eating. Are you hungry, bored, angry, stressed? How can you manage those emotions without food or alcohol?
Next week: How to get through the river of misery.