Beliefs We Have About Ourselves

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What do you believe about yourself? I have always believed I would never be able to lose weight and keep it off and I made that belief come true for most of my life until last year. Byron Katie, author of Loving What Is suggests we list out all our beliefs we have about ourselves and ask 4 questions about each belief:

  1. Is it true?
  2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
  3. How do you react when you think that thought?
  4. Who would you be without that thought?

Let’s use my example again to go through the questions:

  1. Is it true? I have gained and lost 30 lbs multiple times throughout my life but have never been able to keep it off for very long. So it is partly true.
  2. Can I absolutely know that it is true? When I really think about it, I was not done losing the weight and forever had not happened yet. So I do not know that it is absolutely true.
  3. How do I react when I think “I will never be able to lose the weight and keep it off?” It makes me not want to try anymore, becomes self defeating.
  4. Who would I be without that thought? I would be a lot better off without that thought. It is not very useful and makes me want to stop trying.

I learned a lot by asking those 4 questions. What could could I think instead?

– I want to learn to lose the weight and keep it off

– I have lost weight before successfully; I am capable of finding an eating plan that will work for me with foods I love and not feel hungry all the time.

– I am becoming someone who eats foods that fuel her body, manages my mind and emotions and is willing to do what it takes to lose the weight and keep it off.

Remember when we ask our brain questions, or think repetitive negative thoughts, it will find evidence for the thoughts (positive or negative) and answers to the questions. So if you are stuck in a negative thought pattern, ask what is my underlying belief and then ask yourself the 4 questions. Then try on a new thought. I practiced this for a year and finally lost 55 lbs and have been able to keep it off and plan on keeping it off forever. My thought to do this is:

“I do what it takes to maintain my weight.”

What do you want to believe about yourself for 2019?

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