We have all done it. Why did I eat that? Or I blew it, I’m never going to be able to lose weight or stick to a healthy eating plan.
Sound familiar? If your unhealthy eating habits and your attempts to shame yourself into submission by beating yourself up are on a running loop throughout the day; we need to talk.
You can’t shame yourself into taking action. Because shame is an emotion that causes us to take 2 types of action:
- More of the same unhealthy eating habits (numbing behavior)
- Super restrictive approach using mainly willpower to try to eat better (never lasts for long)
You are not weak, flawed or hopeless. You took action because of a thought that caused a feeling. Thoughts that likely caused the above actions:
- Ugh, this is my fault, I did this to myself (feel shame)
- I will only eat ……… foods (feel restrictive)
I call these 2 thoughts the all or nothing approach and neither one works very well.
So how do we change this and move forward? By getting to the root cause of the problem – Its not the food, it’s our thoughts.
We use food to escape negative thoughts and emotions or to deal with stress.
When you have the negative thoughts about your eating habits playing in the background – you kind of feel like you are in a cage, helpless to make a change. This happens when we do not have awareness of our thinking around food.
So how do you create awareness? By writing down what you are eating. Be curious and decide not to beat yourself up for any reason. Writing down what you will eat in advance is even better but it’s OK to take baby steps.
You can choose the thoughts you think. Take a minute and decide what you want to think.
I have a few suggestions:
- I am learning how to create healthier eating habits one meal at a time.
- I am choosing to stick to my healthy eating plan
These thoughts may help you to feel more motivated to stick to your healthy eating plan. If you make a mistake, learn from it and move on. Try to figure out your trigger that caused you to go off plan.
Food is neutral, it has no hold on you. There are no good or bad foods. Just our thoughts about them. Take a different approach and be kind to yourself. You are worth it!
I will be starting a new 6 week program November 3 to Dec. 30 called Holiday Eating Mindset Boot Camp, FB message me for details.
On January 2, 2020 I will be starting a year long coaching program for women over 50 with 50 lbs to lose, FB message me for details or email me: firstname.lastname@example.org