Self sabotage is defined as getting in your own way or practicing self-defeating behaviors.
I have been coaching myself recently on eating extra sweets or having an extra glass of wine. My prevailing thought is “just this once” or “it’s only a small piece of fudge, it won’t hurt anything” which makes me feel justified.
The problem is that I have gained about 10 lbs slowly over the past 6 months and now my pants are tight. Prior to coaching, I would have freaked out, decided it wasn’t worth the effort, blamed the eating plan and gained all the weight back.
I have been doing self coaching and getting coached for the past 2 years, plus now I’m a life coach. So I asked my brain why I was sabotaging myself? Our brains love to answer questions, and the answer really surprised me.
I thought something was wrong and maybe my metabolism was slowing down or my thyroid needed to be checked. But then my brain offered this thought: I should be able to eat whatever I want now that I am on maintenance. Seriously, for 2 years I had been following my plan and I felt like I deserved to eat whatever I wanted and not gain weight.
Our brains are so sneaky. If I am honest I would really like to do that, who wouldn’t? But I have never been a naturally thin person; meaning I don’t just take a few bites of something and then feel satisfied and leave it on the plate. When I see that, I wonder why they don’t finish it and I want to finish it for them.
For me, eating sugar more than once a week or breads and pastas is like crack for my brain. It makes me crave it more and then I start to feel entitled and start self sabotaging.
So instead of thinking innocent sounding thoughts like “just this once” or “a small piece won’t hurt”; I practice thinking “I am choosing to eat and drink on plan so I can fit into my clothes, feel great in my body, and not have so many cravings.” I am worth the effort.
So if you notice you are eating your way through the pantry when you have not done that in awhile, take note. If you start thinking “I should” thoughts, it is a red flag and you should not believe what your brain if offering.
Stay aware and curious about your eating habits, you won’t regret it. You are worth it!